padre-diablo

Anonymous asked:

Question....what IS a hugbox? O_o

ughsocialjustice answered:

according to Urban Dictionary:

A hugbox is a derogatory term for an environment, usually on the internet, in which a group with similar interests gathers to discuss topics in what they intend to be a safe, comforting, and confrontation-free environment.

What they intend to be a “safe space” almost always turns into a circle-jerk of forced consensus and ends with every member repeatedly expressing the exact same opinion to each other, no matter the topic. Since the community is founded on unconditional love and support no matter how much of a tool a person is, these communities tend to attract tools and rational and useful advice is usually a rarity.

Moderators of these groups are usually extremely militant and do not tolerate even the slightest dissenting opinion. Members of these groups are usually so hypersensitive that the moment a contrary opinion appears the entire community explodes in a total drama shitstorm.
Welcome to our community of self-diagnosed Asperger’s sufferers. We have all read the wikipedia article and decided that we have Asperger’s and thus have an excuse for being anti-social and thinking we’re smarter than everyone else. Let’s take turns talking about ourselves and how smart we are and how terrible the world is to us, and after we’re done everyone else will tell us how brave we are. NO TROLLING. - average hugbox community
-The Polish one

padre-diablo:

ifwecansparkle:

padre-diablo:

theaspiehelper:

Pretty accurate, actually.

Never knew that.

Ah yes. Because there are SO MANY social benefits of Aspergers, people usually self-diagnose for funsies.

That—that was sarcasm.

1) It’s pretty much impossible to tell if someone over the internet has Aspergers without really knowing them and having communicated with them for a while, and being able to discuss shared experiences. So it’s kind of gross to assume that you know whether or not people have Aspergers based off of the online groups they frequent.

2) Has it ever occurred to you that the reason these communities are so heavily moderated is because when they aren’t, this kind of toxicity leaks in (just like it does in the “real world,” AKA all the communities they are trying to provide a break from? Whoah.

3) No. Just no.

I may be wrong but i dont think this was an attack on aspergerians. I think hugbox refers more to the lets create a place where indepemdent thouht is not allowed. But ive been called naive before.

I can see that. I just used Aspergers ax a jumping off point, because that’s the community I know, and that’s the example used. My point was mostly that this situation can arise in other marginalized communities as well, and that these “hugboxes” can be both really important to a community, and not as lacking in critical thought as that definition would lead one to believe. I hope that makes sense?

padre-diablo

Anonymous asked:

Question....what IS a hugbox? O_o

ughsocialjustice answered:

according to Urban Dictionary:

A hugbox is a derogatory term for an environment, usually on the internet, in which a group with similar interests gathers to discuss topics in what they intend to be a safe, comforting, and confrontation-free environment.

What they intend to be a “safe space” almost always turns into a circle-jerk of forced consensus and ends with every member repeatedly expressing the exact same opinion to each other, no matter the topic. Since the community is founded on unconditional love and support no matter how much of a tool a person is, these communities tend to attract tools and rational and useful advice is usually a rarity.

Moderators of these groups are usually extremely militant and do not tolerate even the slightest dissenting opinion. Members of these groups are usually so hypersensitive that the moment a contrary opinion appears the entire community explodes in a total drama shitstorm.
Welcome to our community of self-diagnosed Asperger’s sufferers. We have all read the wikipedia article and decided that we have Asperger’s and thus have an excuse for being anti-social and thinking we’re smarter than everyone else. Let’s take turns talking about ourselves and how smart we are and how terrible the world is to us, and after we’re done everyone else will tell us how brave we are. NO TROLLING. - average hugbox community
-The Polish one

padre-diablo:

theaspiehelper:

Pretty accurate, actually.

Never knew that.

Ah yes. Because there are SO MANY social benefits of Aspergers, people usually self-diagnose for funsies.

That—that was sarcasm.

1) It’s pretty much impossible to tell if someone over the internet has Aspergers without really knowing them and having communicated with them for a while, and being able to discuss shared experiences. So it’s kind of gross to assume that you know whether or not people have Aspergers based off of the online groups they frequent.

2) Has it ever occurred to you that the reason these communities are so heavily moderated is because when they aren’t, this kind of toxicity leaks in (just like it does in the “real world,” AKA all the communities they are trying to provide a break from? Whoah.

3) No. Just no.

Sometimes I hate loud noises.

And by sometimes I mean 98% of the time.

But the other 2% of the time I want to play so music so loud that I lose all of my hearing and explode into 100 pieces because it would be really good tension relief.